I’m amazed at how many people have a horrible attitude. If you want to set yourself apart from the competition in the workplace, become an influencer in your community, or even set a life-changing tone in your home…here’s the secret: Bring a Great Attitude.
It’s becoming harder and harder to rise above cynicism, negativity, and complaint but those who can will change things – they will lead. I’m convinced of this.
Here are 3 steps to possessing a winning attitude:
1) Begin by Clearing Your Head
A few weeks ago my heart and mind felt heavy – I found myself beginning to be really negative. So I tried to step back and ask myself, “Why am I feeling this way?” I began to realize that I was exposing myself for extended periods of time to negative influence. This came primarily through my Twitter feed. This is not a bash on social media – I love the opportunity it creates to connect with and influence others – but it happened in this moment to be the channel by which I was obliviously exposing myself to excessive amounts of negativity, complaining, belittling, and backbiting.
The weather sucks.
My food is gross.
My boss is horrible.
I hate my job.
Uhh…I’m stuck in traffic again.
I hate today.
I hate life.
And on and on the list went.
So I decided to delete those apps for a season from my phone. Again, I’m not against social media. I really enjoy it and I know I’ll reinstall those apps at some point. But I needed to clear my head. Perhaps you need to as well – perhaps not because of social media – but perhaps in another way. If so, do whatever is necessary to create some quiet space in your mind. For me, the reason I was hesitant to do it was I felt like I was going to miss out on something. Can’t tell you how much I’ve enjoyed the quiet.
2) Begin to Look at Things Differently
One of favorite things is to be a part of conversations where things aren’t going as planned. Sometimes I get to listen to business owners share about their particular market. Sometimes I get to listen to educational leaders in our city share about the problems in our schools. Sometimes I get to listen to a parent concerned about their child. If I’m not careful, I’ll allow others to drag me into solely focusing on the problem. The focus becomes all of the things that are “not” there. But if I can begin to look at the same situations differently, I can usually create an opportunity to bring a positive perspective to things. This takes incredible self-discipline…because quite honestly it’s easy to just get sucked in. But if I can find the opportunity that the problem presents or concentrate on what “could be” instead of what isn’t, I’ll probably be able to create a positive moment.
3) Begin to Speak Positively
Once the opportunity is there, then you have to seize it. It’s your chance to be positive. And people are drawn to positivity. I’m not talking about unrealistic, over-the-top, annoying optimism. That can just be irritating – and will actually create skepticism from others. But a positive word, an encouraging word, a well-timed and seized moment could be your ticket to lead.
So today, I dare you to lead yourself – look for opportunities to bring a positive attitude. Too many around you are too quick to remind the world how much everything sucks. Lead differently.